This is a book I’ve used to train parents and have found useful in understanding how to listen in ways that invite kids to keep wanting to talk with you, and talking with them in ways that help them learn valuable skills (problem solving, assertiveness, self-reflection, etc.).
It’s a good place to start because the cartoons depict real-life kinds of situations (and potential ways of handling them) that you can immediately relate to experiencing.
These skills are critical for the development of self-worth and self-competence, and self-confidence. They’re also critical for getting “rebellious” or “resistant” children to be more self-reflective, more engaged, and more cooperative.